COMMUNICATION CREATES TRANSPARENCY

 COMMUNICATION    CREATES     TRANSPARENCY

Transparency can help you have the healthy relationship that you want. However, it’s not something that most people have. Spouses that want to see each other’s phones are judged and considered controlling simply because they are feeling insecure. 

People hide financial habits from one another. Laughing about it behind their spouse’s back has become the norm. This can lead to a strained relationship that is full of problems. Being more open with one another, however, can lead to a relationship built on trust and honesty.

How To Have Transparency In A Relationship

Most people think that transparency means being brutally honest about your feelings. While being honest is important, it’s also important to consider the other person’s feelings when talking. There is a lot more to being transparent in a relationship than giving your partner the cold, hard truth or explaining every grueling detail of your workday. 

These tips can help us have healthier relationships.

1. Focus on honesty

One of the most important things that most couples struggle with is being truthful. When you hide things from your partner, you’ll find that it slowly spills over into the entire relationship. Instead, always be honest, even if the truth might hurt their feelings. 

Often, we do this for our own personal interests. It doesn’t do our partner any favors. Don’tlie to protect them. You also should never lie to avoid conflict. 

2. Be emotionally transparent

When you are honest, it also means no more lies about your feelings. When you’re feeling emotionally distant, you need to be honest about why. Explain to your partner if you are having work and life issues, and how it’s affecting you. When you do this, it can help you and your partner work together as a team. You’ll quickly start to see intimacy grow in your relationship. 

Some couples struggle with this step in particular. Often, this is because of a miscommunication between two people. One person may invalidate the other person’s feelings. Often, couples create an environment that is not emotionally safe. It can lead to a breakdown in communication, and in both people not feeling comfortable working through their problems. 

If you see this pattern in your relationship, consider seeking help from a professional therapist. Couples therapy can go a long way in helping two people learn to talk to each other about both problems in the relationship and their feelings. 

3. Share thoughts and feelings

In healthy relationships, both people are able to share what’s going on inside their heads. Close relationships evolve over an extended time period of two people being able to do just that. Talk to your partner about your daily life. Practice active listening skills when they talk about theirs. This can go a long way in helping you both build transparency in the relationship. 

4. Deal with defensive feelings nicely

While you and your partner work on expressing yourselves and sharing, there are going to be times that one of you feels defensive. How you react to those feelings can have a significant impact on your relationship. 

Use effective communication. Practice using “I” statements to discuss how your partner made you feel. Then, work through those issues as they come up instead of letting them fester or deteriorate.

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TRAIN YOURSELF

TRAIN YOURSELF

WHAT you do for yourself counts far more than all that others have done or can do for you

Self-discipline is the most important feature in any life.

Unless you put yourself under mental discipline, you will never develop the forces in you that are valuable to the commercial world.

 

Rule your temper so that no matter what happens, what is said or done, your temper will be under absolute control.

The man who does not rule his temper can never achieve the success that belongs to him.

He destroys the building that he erects.

Govern your tongue, so that it will say nothing that will injure anyone around you.

 

Practically all the injury that is done to a character, to a business, a home, or a person, is done with words.

It is tongue work. The man or woman who makes no contribution to destructive thought and talk is a valuable asset anywhere.

 

He is deaf to anything that is destructive to another.

He is blind to anything that folks around him do.

He cannot speak of it. He has mastery of himself.

The efficiency of an office force is reduced sometimes by 50 percent by idle, unkind words.

The man who can govern his temper, his tongue, and his appetite, though he has but mediocre ability, is bound to get to the top.

Gaining the mastery of these will be among your first real victories.

 

It is controlled power that is valuable.

That waterfall is simply beautiful. It has no commercial value until it is harnessed.

It is the harnessed ability in you that is worthwhile, an ability under intelligent mastery.

Find out what you wish to be or do, then train yourself for it.

 

What you have undeveloped in you has no value. No one else either wishes or has the time to develop it. That is your business.

The training is all done by you.

If you have a voice, put yourself under a teacher; then work and carry out the teacher's instructions.

If it is art, put yourself under a competent instructor and obey the laws of art and work.

Nothing will take the place of hard work, intelligently directed. Talents in you need push and determination to make them worth money.

It is you, and you alone, who will do the developing.

The lazy person who waits for something to turn up is a failure.

 

The only things that will turn up are rent and bills.

Nothing will take the place of self-denial and hard work.

It is easy to become a failure; all you need to do is to idly dream.

It is the man who wills and keeps on willing who wins. Don't float. Don't wait for an opportunity. Go make your opportunity.

 

Put your whole self into life. Study, drive yourself.

Always remember that your worst enemy is inside of you.

No circumstance, no person or combination of persons can conquer you as long as you do not destroy your own prospects yourself.

Don't be satisfied with anything you do. Always seek to improve yourself.

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