COMMUNICATION CREATES TRANSPARENCY
Transparency can help you have the healthy relationship that you want. However, it’s not something that most people have. Spouses that want to see each other’s phones are judged and considered controlling simply because they are feeling insecure.
People hide financial habits from one another. Laughing about it behind their spouse’s back has become the norm. This can lead to a strained relationship that is full of problems. Being more open with one another, however, can lead to a relationship built on trust and honesty.
How To Have Transparency In A Relationship
Most people think that transparency means being brutally honest about your feelings. While being honest is important, it’s also important to consider the other person’s feelings when talking. There is a lot more to being transparent in a relationship than giving your partner the cold, hard truth or explaining every grueling detail of your workday.
These tips can help us have healthier relationships.
1. Focus on honesty
One of the most important things that most couples struggle with is being truthful. When you hide things from your partner, you’ll find that it slowly spills over into the entire relationship. Instead, always be honest, even if the truth might hurt their feelings.
Often, we do this for our own personal interests. It doesn’t do our partner any favors. Don’tlie to protect them. You also should never lie to avoid conflict.
2. Be emotionally transparent
When you are honest, it also means no more lies about your feelings. When you’re feeling emotionally distant, you need to be honest about why. Explain to your partner if you are having work and life issues, and how it’s affecting you. When you do this, it can help you and your partner work together as a team. You’ll quickly start to see intimacy grow in your relationship.
Some couples struggle with this step in particular. Often, this is because of a miscommunication between two people. One person may invalidate the other person’s feelings. Often, couples create an environment that is not emotionally safe. It can lead to a breakdown in communication, and in both people not feeling comfortable working through their problems.
If you see this pattern in your relationship, consider seeking help from a professional therapist. Couples therapy can go a long way in helping two people learn to talk to each other about both problems in the relationship and their feelings.
In healthy relationships, both people are able to share what’s going on inside their heads. Close relationships evolve over an extended time period of two people being able to do just that. Talk to your partner about your daily life. Practice active listening skills when they talk about theirs. This can go a long way in helping you both build transparency in the relationship.
4. Deal with defensive feelings nicely
While you and your partner work on expressing yourselves and sharing, there are going to be times that one of you feels defensive. How you react to those feelings can have a significant impact on your relationship.
Use effective communication. Practice using “I” statements to discuss how your partner made you feel. Then, work through those issues as they come up instead of letting them fester or deteriorate.
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